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I am so pleased to be returning to Ecole Julie Riel School on Nov 14th as part of Bully Awareness Week

Date: November 15, 2016
Time: 9:00am
Event: Cool Kids Care
Topic: Cool Kids Care
Venue: Ecole Julie Riel
Public: Private

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I have been to George Waters Middle School quite a few times and I’m so happy to be returning.

Date: November 17, 2016
Time: 10:00am
Event: The M.A.G.I.C. of Kindness
Topic: The Magic of Kindness
Venue: George Waters Middle School
Public: Private

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I am so pleased to be returning to Ecole Van Bellegham School on Nov 14th as part of Bully Awareness Week

Date: November 14, 2016
Time: 9:00am
Event: Cool Kids Care
Topic: Cool Kids Care
Venue: Ecole Van Bellegham School

Are You a Leader?

Or Do You Just Say You Are?

Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t! -Margaret Thatcher

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I remember working with a fellow once who would tell anyone that would listen, that he was a leader. In fact he would say that he had been called to be a “leader of leaders.” But anyone who knew him for any amount of time realized that it was all in his head. You see a leader is someone who has followers. And even though he always had an excuse for why he couldn’t get people to follow him, his every attempt at leadership failed. It was because for him leadership was all about him and his position.

He had apparently never heard the saying, ‘If you think you are leading and turn around to see no one following, then you are just taking a walk.”   But you can’t influence people just by telling them that you are their leader. True leaders know that is isn’t about them, it is all about their followers.

The fifth law of John Maxwell’s The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership is the Law of AdditionLeaders Add Value by Serving Others.

Every relationship, and in fact every interaction either adds to, or subtracts from our lives. The question is; Are you adding or subtracting from the lives of your followers? Are you having a positive or a negative impact on them?

How do you know whether you are adding or subtracting from your followers? It’s actually pretty easy. If you can’t give some evidence of making things better for your people, then you are probably subtracting. 90 percent of people who subtract are not doing it on purpose. On the other hand 90 percent of people who add value do so on purpose.

The bottom line in leadership is not how far we advance ourselves but how far we advance others.

And it is not dependent on position. You can add value at any position. Take my friend Carey Lauder as an example. He has no employees. He is not in a position of power. And yet he has added value to so many people, in so many ways, that he has gained tremendous influence.

He adds value to others intentionally. He doesn’t do it to gain influence. He just loves to add value to others. Most people don’t add value to others because they are naturally selfish. Most of us are. Carey is not selfish. And he adds value to so many people that he not only adds, he multiplies his influence. He is also one of the greatest action photographers in the world.  He photographs many sports teams, both professional and amateur.  In fact, he is my photographer and his pictures are all over my website.

Telling someone that you are a leader will not make it happen. Adding value to others will.
This leaves us with two critical questions:

Are you making things better for the people who follow you?

Can you show evidence of that?

Do Your Goals Match Your Strengths?

Stop Chasing After Dreams Outside Your Strength Zone

 

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“If you really, really believe in your dream, you’ll get there. But you have to have passion and total commitment to make it happen.” – Daniel Eugene “Rudy” Ruettiger

 

This quote should carry weight because this is the guy who dreamed of playing football for Notre Dame. And finally right at the end of the movie he gets in for a play? Right? Wrong.

Have you ever seen the movie Rudy? About a kid who tries and tries and finally gets to play in three plays for his beloved Notre Dame? So many people get the wrong message from that story. They forget that Rudy wasted a great part of his life for that one game and those three plays.

Rudy did not even get into Notre Dame when he left high school. He spent two years in the navy and worked for two years in a power plant. When he applied to Notre Dame he didn’t get in because of his grades and had to spend two years at a junior college.

At 5’6″ and 165 lbs, he was not built like a football player but through his work ethic, made the scout squad. These were the tackling dummies that the real team would practice against. He finally got into the final game of the season when his coach decided to dress him for that game. He recorded a sack on his third and final play.

Now I admit I loved the movie. But Rudy had it wrong. He spent way too much time and effort chasing a dream that was outside his strength zone. Just imagine if he had discovered his strength zone. And then put that same determination into reaching a goal that was his strong suit.

When you are setting your goal you need to look at two things. What are you passionate about? And what do you have a talent for?

When I first started as a magician, I looked at my strengths and weaknesses. It was easy to see that I would never be the next David Copperfield. It wouldn’t matter how much passion and commitment I had. I didn’t look the part and didn’t have the necessary skill set. But, I could be a comedy magician and excel at that. That was a talent I possessed.

John Maxwell makes this point in his book Put Your Dreams to the Test. “People can improve a talent only a certain amount. It has been my observation that our potential for growth in a talent area is about 2 points out of 10. In other words, if I am average in an area—let’s say a 5—I may be able to become a 6 or 7 by working hard in that area. Occasionally an exceptional person can move up 3 points and become an 8. However, people don’t achieve dreams in areas where they are naturally 4s or 5s. If you want to achieve a dream, you need to work in an area where you start as a 7 or 8. Then if you work hard, you can be truly exceptional!”

I think Rudy’s quote should read:

“If you really, really believe in your dream, you’ll can get there. But you have to have passion, a talent for it, and total commitment to make it happen.

Stop wasting your time and effort chasing after a bad dream. Discover your strengths, then create your goal.

What are your goals?

Do they match your talents?

Here’s Another Way That Won’t Work – Use a Quote Incorrectly

Learn Something Every Time You Fail

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” –  a quote credited to Thomas A. Edison

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The story is that Edison failed more than 10,000 times when trying to invent the light bulb.

Never mind the fact that Thomas Edison never actually said that.  And never mind that he didn’t even invent the light bulb. This quote is used any time somebody fails at something.  The thought seems to be that Edison kept trying so you should keep trying.

That is NOT the lesson at all.

The real lesson behind this quote is that every time you fail, you need to learn something from it.  You have never truly failed unless you have learned nothing from it.

“A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in on the experience”.

– Elbert Hubbard

After every experiment Edison would take copious notes.  He was determined to learn something every time.

While trying to perfect the light bulb, there was a huge explosion in the lab.  Edison covered in soot, with the smoke still swirling around him, got up and was taking notes.  A reporter asked him why he was taking notes as this was certainly not the answer he was looking for.  It had caused an explosion. Edison replied “Well, who knows, someday, someone may need an explosion.”

It is not helpful to use this quote when someone is failing over and over again if they not learning anything from it. You must be learning something and not just ‘trying again.’ I am not suggesting that failure is final.  It is only final if this is your final attempt.  I AM saying that you need to learn something with every failure to improve.  Actually, you need to learn from your successes too.  But you will always learn more from your failures.

Look at football teams.  They go over the game tapes and find out what happened.  What went wrong?  How can they improve next game?

By the was, the Edison quote is probably taken from this actual quote. It is from an interview with Edison, published in the January 1921 issue of American Magazine.

“After we had conducted thousands of experiments on a certain project without solving the problem, one of my associates, after we had conducted the crowning experiment and it had proved a failure, expressed discouragement and disgust over our having failed to find out anything. I cheerily assured him that we had learned something. For we had learned for a certainty that the thing couldn’t be done that way, and that we would have to try some other way.”

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Shellbrook

So pleased to be partnering with Shellbrook Theatre for a Fundraising event on October 22nd.

Date: October 22, 2016
Time: 7:00pm
Event: Family Fun Magic Show
Sponsor: Town of Shellbrook Recreation Department
(306)747-4949
Venue: Shellbrook Theatre
Location: 1 Avenue
Shellbrook, SK
Public: Public

Free Magic trick for all kids under 12